Two not so great days in a row...hmmm, wonder what that's about? And yet, I press onward!
She does him good not evil
All the days of her life
Do I do good?
A merry heart does good, like medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones. Proverbs 17:22
I do have a merry heart, most of the time. I have also been on the broken spirit side before. And it does dry your bones. When I feel down, like really down, nothing good can come from me. I don't cook or clean. I'm grumpy and can offer no nice words to anyone. But life will do that to you at times. There have been circumstances that are beyond my control that have left me feeling really low in the past. I guess the key is to not stay low. I need to reach out to God when I feel that way. I may not be able to control everything, but I can give my burden over to him. He can ease the troubles of my heart and make it merrier.
Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad. Proverbs 12:25
Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your father in heaven. Matthew 5:16
For this reason we also, since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you, and to ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding; that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God. Colossians 1:9,10
How can I take this and apply it to being a good wife? I can honor my husband with my words and my works. I can turn loose of the reins when it comes to the big decisions. I can keep his happiness and interests in my mind. I can serve him with a gentle and loving spirit.
Serve him? I was brought up by a very independent woman. My husband has, at times, called me a FemNazi. I have learned and lived the 'no man is going to tell me what to do' mentality for a long time. It really did our marriage a great injustice. So how do I 'serve' my husband?
The first thing is to keep Christ the focus of my life. I need to commit God's word to my heart and apply it to my life.
And here comes the hardest thing for me...submit to my husband. (Darn those feminist influences when I was growing up!)
So how do I submit without being resentful? That is going to take some prayer and a whole lot of attitude changing. I know that as wives we are to submit to our husbands, but that has been one of the hardest things for me during my marriage.
Hmmm, what else does a good wife do? A neat house, nice meals, a genuine interest in her husband and his activities...thriftiness, kindness, a great helper.
Am I those things? Some days. Can I be a lot better? Definitely.
God, help me to step aside and let my husband lead. Change my heart and my head when it comes to having a submissive spirit. Give me the energy and strength to do what I am called to do. Help me to be a helper and a blessing to my husband.